Dealing with heartbreak.
Eight months ago my girlfriend broke up with me. In Paris of all places (FML). I loved her. I also loved her daughter. I still love them both. After all, we were together for seven years and her daughter, now 11, was like my own.
Our relationship was the best and worst I’ve ever had. In the end, it was toxic, painful and confusing. Even so, it hurts to let them go. And I’m doing just that today…I’ve said this a lot and I’ll keep saying this until it’s true.
I’m not 100% sure why we didn’t work out. What I do know is ... I wasn’t the best man I could be for her. I made mistakes and lied to cover them up. She lost her trust in me for good reason.
Instead of looking back searching for answers or blaming myself or her, I’m just accepting our relationship wasn’t meant to last forever. That she was never mine to have forever. We didn’t work because I was a bad boyfriend, it simply wasn’t meant to be. I wasn’t ready for her and she wasn’t ready for me. And that’s okay.
I believe everyone experiences heartbreak - more than once. God it’s painful! Yes we leave a piece of ourselves with that person. what we gain is so much more. The deepest pains bring the highest growth. For me, it has helped shaped the person I want to be and make more clearer what I want. And for this, I say bring on the next potential heartbreak.
Lessons learned: There are countless here. The one that stands out the most is ....Love people who help you love the person that you are. I’ll say it again...Love people who help you love the person that you are. And don’t be afraid for it to end. Because it’s better to love than to never have loved at all.