Dear young women...
I’m a 37-year old man. A man who’s single, never married and with no children. I live in a nice house, drive a nice car and wear nice clothes. From the outside, you’d think I have the perfect life. It’s far, far, far from perfect. I’m a man who’s been lost, who’s hated himself, who’s unfulfilled, who doesn’t have it all together, and who has taken his life for granted. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And shamefully...I’ve taken some of the women in my life for granted. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I’ve manipulated young women. I’ve used my position of power and resources to persuade them. I’ve hurt women I love emotionally. I’ve cheated with no thought other then for myself. I’ve lied to them to cover it all up. I’ve lied to myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Like lost men do, I lied to myself and put the blame of my shortcomings on others - particularly women. It was never their fault for me acting like a “dog”, “cheater”, “liar”, “devil”, “scumbag”…the list goes on. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
A man acts less than a man simply due to a lack of integrity. Integrity being our guiding principals in all that we do and all that we say. It’s easy to lose our integrity and, thankfully, it’s possible to get it back. So, please do your best to not give up on us. And when we start putting in real work on regaining our integrity, give us a little encouragement. It’s a long, lonely rode full of shame, guilt and hatred towards ourselves.
Always remember this during the process of dealing with a man who’s hurt you…
You don’t need a man to feel loved, to feel beautiful, or to feel wanted. You simply need someone, anyone, to lift you up. To be a POSITIVE force behind you during your journey of life. On this journey, it’s solely your responsibility to learn how to love yourself, love the skin you’re in and to desire nothing more than what’s already inside of you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You’re a POWERFUL human being. You don’t, and can’t, realize how powerful you truly are...yet. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You haven’t lived long enough to know who you are and what you’re capable of. Be PATIENT with yourself; you have a long life ahead of you. Be FEARLESS. Take risks. Be INDEPENDENT. Spend time alone. Forgive yourself and FORGIVE OTHERS. Don’t settle for anyone or anything - you deserve the life you dream of and can make it real. INVEST in and LOVE YOURSELF. Once you fully connect with that person inside of you...your ENTIRE world will change.